Let That $h!t Go

So much to do, so little time. That saying is so true and I know we all feel it. Summer has faded into Fall, despite what the temperature may feel like in your area. Here in Jacksonville it’s still hot as a mother (oh wait, I’m a mother! Ha, I am too kind!). Since my job revolves around looking forward and sharing new trends, it makes time go by way too fast. It’s October already and the Christmas scented candles are already selling like crazy! My daughter is about to be 16 months old and with every milestone I feel like she is getting closer and closer to having her own family. Ok, that may be a bit far off, but still time flies.

My goal every day and my prayer every night is that we live in the moment. Of course I pray for a bright and healthy future for us and our world, but the moments are so much more dear. I get caught up in what could be and what will be that I tend to forget about the present. I forget that my squirmy little girl’s tantrums are something to absolutely adore because she is living loud and feeling and learning and growing. I forget that my car breaking down gives me a chance to practice patience and not be all “woe is me.” It’s the universe giving me a lesson in basic math by problem solving and figuring out a work around for my life. I let my reflexive thoughts get the best of me when something doesn’t go the way I planned instead of being thoughtful and selfless. I forget that the future just might not be.

What I notice around me is that most other people do the same thing. The more social our network is, we see more people in our network suffering. Suffering from depression, health complications, grief, anxiety, being over worked, lonely, too busy or too social and putting important things aside, or even acting like none of this exists and pretending everything is perfection. I also notice that a lot of people just want to laugh to take away some of this suffering.

My husband says I’m addicted to my phone and he’s probably right. I play mindless games when I’m not motivated to read at night or get extra work done or blog like I am now. I check my email constantly. I scroll through Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn just to see what everyone’s up to and to make sure I’m not missing out – on what? What could I possibly be missing out on that’s not right here in front of me?

You want to know what would take away some of the suffering? Self care. Whether it be talking to a therapist or life coach or following your own advice that you often give to others. Maybe, going for a drive and stopping in somewhere you haven’t been for a cup of coffee. How about closing your eyes and breathing in and out deeply for just 5 minutes? Giving someone a compliment or even a hug – chances are you both need it. Take some time for yourself and give your time to others, most importantly your close friends and family. We are given a very brief time on this earth.

Its so hard to be thoughtful about each moment because our lives are happening and we are constantly being interrupted by one thing or another. It’s up to us to shut those interruptions out and not let them get in the way of what is important. Shut the door in interruption’s face and don’t feel bad about it. Interruption does have a way of pulling you towards it so make a conscious effort to go the other way and use your energy for the good of your life instead. We have so many things in our lives that we don’t need and they add zero value. It’s like Marie Kondo says in her book the life-changing magic of tidying up, “does it bring you joy?”

Apply that same thought to non- material things that surround you. Anything that doesn’t bring you joy, let that $h!t go.

Can you pick five things off of the top of your head that you know you would be better off letting go? I can think of more than that.

High Fives and Hello’s

Milestones. I call every single new thing my baby does a “milestone.” Most recently she says “Hi” and “uh-oh” all the time and loves to give high fives. I am so amazed by the smallest things and obviously I think shes the absolute smartest baby in the world!

Motherhood is so funny at times, especially when I’m having an out of body experience and watching myself react to all of the different ways she’s growing. Its wonderful and hilarious to see the things my husband and I will do just to get a smirk or a little laughter from our tiny human.

Now that she is nearing the 1 year mark I don’t even know what feelings the next milestones will invoke. I mean I know she’ll be walking and talking soon and creating great big huge milestones, but I have a feeling they won’t feel quite as big or important as the first giggle, the first time she rolled to her tummy, or the first time she signed for milk. Though, they will be much bigger and more important because she won’t be attached to me anymore. She just started to realize in the last few months that we are in fact, not physically attached. I don’t know if either of us can take it sometimes!

She’ll start walking and talking and the years will fly by and she’ll go on her very first date! She’ll get her drivers license and I know I’ll worry more then than I do now while she’s completely under my watchful wing. The milestones are what I look forward to, but they are also what I’m afraid of. I’m afraid as the milestones get easier for her and start happening closer together that they’ll just get that much harder for me.

Motherhood is one of the best things that ever happened to me and from the very beginning it’s been the toughest. I’ve never felt the need to protect, to love, to give to any human as much as I feel the need now. What’s funny is I feel the need to love and protect and give more to myself now too. I know my daughter needs a strong, healthy, giving, caring, and smart mother to look up to and I want to be exactly that. Since I’m afraid of all of the milestones she’ll experience while growing up, I must grow with her and create my own.

Working on myself and on my goals and creating a vision for the mother I want to be is becoming more of a priority than ever. Maybe my daughter will clap her hands and say “Go Mommy!” when she notices my achievements, haha!

What have been your favorite milestones while watching your child(ren) grow? Please leave a comment below!

NO DAY BUT TODAY

Yes, the title of this post is taken from a song in one of my favorite musicals RENT! RENT deals with a group of people, who despite their circumstances, rise above so much and realize that every moment counts. It’s about love and loss, moving on and finding out that in order to improve your circumstances you have to adapt to change and fight for what’s right, for those you love, and for yourself.

So much of our fight is inner dialogue that other can’t see on the outside. Lately I’ve been so overwhelmed because I have so much to do. Instead of picking a task and conquering it, I wallow in my own thoughts and get upset because I don’t know what the first step is in tackling a job or making one thing a priority over any other. I mean, I still have my Christmas Tree up and it’s February. I go from “well, ugh-maybe I should just leave it up for the rest of the year,” and all of these other passive aggressive inner thoughts when in reality I just need to stop what I am doing and start removing ornaments!

Last year a friend recommended a time scheduling app called Be Focused. I downloaded it onto my computer and it was a game changer. I used it religiously for a while and then started to get the hang of the timing on my own (or so I thought) so eventually stopped. Well, one tiny little break led to multiple unscheduled breaks and I completely lost my FOCUS! I’ve decided that I better get back on track and start using the app again because I know that it helps me to concentrate on one task at a time. Check it out if you are constantly checking social media at work (unless that is your work), taking a break to play candy crush, or just zoning out!

I find that routine truly helps my stress level and my productivity. I normally navigate through my week trying to multitask. Getting everything done that I need to get done seems nearly impossible. Since I work from home and mostly from my car, I have to adapt to change pretty much daily. I work by appointment so normally I know when I’ll have a break, but I have to be very conscious of what I do during that break so I don’t waste valuable time. I understand, now more than ever, that time is so important because the seconds go by so fast. I was always taught to anticipate other’s needs. Well sister, I have to start anticipating my own needs in order to keep a positive outlook and not become overwhelmed.

This weekend, my plan is to enjoy the time I have with my family, but I am also going to remove some of the chaos from my life by trying to map out a routine for my week to come.

Today, I am taking down the damn Christmas tree!

Being overwhelmed and stressed isn’t good for me, but it isn’t good for anyone around me either. A healthy lifestyle isn’t just about eating healthy foods and being active, it’s mostly about being happy (which those things definitely help in the happy department). I have to remind myself that in the grand scheme of things, everything we worry about is so very minute. So if you feel like your life is a shitshow, OWN it or take the steps to IMPROVE it. I think I’ll do both!

3 Day Refresh – Day 1

I am so glad I’m doing this because so far it is easy peasy! It is the end of day one, I just took a bubble bath, I’m drinking a little more water and then I’m heading to bed.


Since it’s just after Memorial Day Weekend, it’s the perfect time to detox from the fun weekend. I didn’t go all out by any means but I did have more than one cheat meal! I went to the grocery store and got everything I needed which was all fruits and veggies and 3 gallons of filtered water. I wanted to get the gallons of water to ensure I was drinking enough every day. I’m drinking one a day and that should really assist in flushing out my system. In the refresh pamphlet there are some great recipes and food lists that you can pick from to prepare for the 3 days.

This morning I woke up, checked my email in bed, and then immediately made my shakeology before I got ready for the rest of the day. I added a half of banana, water, and ice to it and it tasted great. I had been drinking unsweetened almond milk with it and I honestly didn’t notice much of a difference in taste.

An hour later I had the fiber sweep which wasn’t as bad as I thought it was going to be. I put it in cold water and squeezed some fresh lemon in it, and shook it until it was all nice and blended. There were a couple of clumps at the bottom which didn’t go down as smoothly, but all in all not that bad!

For Lunch I had my vanilla fresh and added raspberries to it. I also had a cucumbers and hummus for my veggie and healthy fat. It was filling and I didn’t feel like I was missing out at all


I also got an afternoon snack. If I didn’t have that I think it would have been much harder. I prepared a couple of celery sticks with almond butter and it was the perfect snack.


Dinner was probably the hardest because I made dinner for my boyfriend. We had yummy, healthy chicken sitting in the crock pot all day. This is normally a go to meal for me because it’s so easy. I usually make him a starch and then add a veggie. Since roasted asparagus was in the recipe book I made that for his and my veggie tonight. They were sooooo good!!! 


I had to pass up the chicken and the mashed potatoes and I knew it was going to be hard, so I did the 21 day extreme upper fix workout. This made having another vanilla fresh shake soooo much easier. As an fyi, I really love the extreme workouts so far. I feel like I needed to change up my routine and my muscles are thanking me because I’m working them in a different way. That’s another reason I love beachbody. There are so many different programs to choose from so nothing ever gets old…except for maybe this vanilla fresh. I kid, I kid!!! hahaha

On to day 2!

 

 

 

21 Day Fix – Day 21

I just want to start by wishing all of my mama readers a very happy Mother’s Day! Ihope, even if your children aren’t with you, that you are being celebrated. I believe children learn the most from their parents, and moms in particular, are a guiding light. I’ve learned all of life’s most important lessons from my mom and she’s the best example of the type of person I want to be. She never speaks negatively of anyone except for this one guy on a commercial that comes on all of the time (Who knows how he got cast). She always looks at things objectively, she gives more than she receives, she forgives, loves wholly, helps those who have less and those who have more, and treats everyone as equals. She’s understanding, she listens, she smiles at strangers because she wants them to smile, she’s empathetic, kind, smart, beautiful, strong, resilient, and wishes the best for everyone. She never gives up on me when I feel like giving up on myself and that’s what makes me keep going at the end of the day. I have no idea how I got so extremely lucky. I could say all of the same for my dad (but it’s Mother’s Day!). In my opinion both of my parents are as close to perfect as you can possibly be. Mother’s you are your child’s blessing, just as they are yours.Through my mother I see, and I know Gods love. If I become a mother I hope I can somehow compare. Thank you mom!!

Yesterday was so fun and busy that I was too exhausted to blog last night. You didn’t miss much though. The day started off pretty well with my workout and healthy breakfast but moving on from there it all went downhill. I’m not upset about it though. I knew what my choices were and I knew I was going to have to make up for it afterwards. 

My boyfriend and I hung out with my parents all weekend and went to the Blind Willie Blues Festival in Thomson, GA. I’ll be posting a video of it on my TownieGirl YouTube channel, so if you’re interested please subscribe and you’ll get an update when I post it this week. It was a lot of fun! It’s such a great annual event and this is the second time we have been. I highly recommend it! I had a few beers and snacked on treats pretty much all day. When we went for dinner I got a perfect juicy hamburger and I enjoyed every bit of it. My belly wasn’t really thanking me, but my tastebuds were.


Today I woke up and ate some fruit then took my boyfriend to the airport. I’m still out of town so checked in to a hotel, got some healthy groceries, and got my yoga in. Plus I did one of the workouts from the 22 minute hardcore series. It worked me! This is the last day of the 21 day fix for me and I’ll be posting my results on Tuesday when I’m finally home and have access to the tape measure. That doesn’t mean I’m stopping. I’m starting over again tomorrow! This week I’m going to learn more about what it takes to be a coach so you’ll get new updates on that as well. Please let me know if you’d like to join any challenges and I’ll update you when I’m close starting a new one so you can jump on board. 

Fresh Friday – Fresh Field Farms

So today when I opened up the freezer to pull something out for dinner tonight I realized that it was time for a trip to the grocery. Whenever I need an ingredient for a couple of things I’ll just pop into the store and pick it up. Today I felt like going on a much needed adventure though…and adventure to Fresh Field Farms!

The holiday season got kind of tricky for my regular grocery shopping sessions because my household was very busy. Between me and my boyfriend we have a lot going on because we both have regular work hours and then we have our not so regular work hours when we are still actually working. He is in an outlaw country band and plays the stand up bass and I am an actor. Our schedules are always packed so sometimes it’s hard to find the time to cook healthy meals. Often I’ll buy fresh veggies and they will go bad by the time we are actually able to stay home and cook a nice healthy meal. Now that the holiday’s have been over, it’s easier to get on and stay on track. I just have to figure out how to tackle the holidays when they come up. Advanced meal prep is key…I have yet to do that!

Fresh Feild Farm’s is a great grocery store. It’s more of a farmers market. They bring the farm to you! It’s full of freshly packed, organic, non GMO, antiboitic and hormone free foods. Many people are scared to jump on the health food bandwagon because it may seem more expensive to buy fresh foods (especially of a great quality) than processed foods, but that isn’t the case if you know where to shop! I definitely suggest scoping out your local farmers markets if you don’t have access to a store like this. Although, it seems now that people are becoming more aware of their diets and nutrition, places like this are popping up everywhere, so be on the lookout! If you are in Jacksonville or Orlando Florida check out the below link to learn about Fresh Field Farms and find the location nearest you!

Fresh Field Farms
Watch my vlog to sneak a little peek into Fresh Field Farms and find out what great goodies I got. I also found a recipe via Pinterest that I made with all of my fresh goodies. The link to that recipe is in the video description notes and I can attest that it was yummy!  Click the link and watch below and please subscribe to my YouTube Channel for FRESH updates! Have a great weekend!

Fresh Friday Vlog – Fresh Field Farms