Let That $h!t Go

So much to do, so little time. That saying is so true and I know we all feel it. Summer has faded into Fall, despite what the temperature may feel like in your area. Here in Jacksonville it’s still hot as a mother (oh wait, I’m a mother! Ha, I am too kind!). Since my job revolves around looking forward and sharing new trends, it makes time go by way too fast. It’s October already and the Christmas scented candles are already selling like crazy! My daughter is about to be 16 months old and with every milestone I feel like she is getting closer and closer to having her own family. Ok, that may be a bit far off, but still time flies.

My goal every day and my prayer every night is that we live in the moment. Of course I pray for a bright and healthy future for us and our world, but the moments are so much more dear. I get caught up in what could be and what will be that I tend to forget about the present. I forget that my squirmy little girl’s tantrums are something to absolutely adore because she is living loud and feeling and learning and growing. I forget that my car breaking down gives me a chance to practice patience and not be all “woe is me.” It’s the universe giving me a lesson in basic math by problem solving and figuring out a work around for my life. I let my reflexive thoughts get the best of me when something doesn’t go the way I planned instead of being thoughtful and selfless. I forget that the future just might not be.

What I notice around me is that most other people do the same thing. The more social our network is, we see more people in our network suffering. Suffering from depression, health complications, grief, anxiety, being over worked, lonely, too busy or too social and putting important things aside, or even acting like none of this exists and pretending everything is perfection. I also notice that a lot of people just want to laugh to take away some of this suffering.

My husband says I’m addicted to my phone and he’s probably right. I play mindless games when I’m not motivated to read at night or get extra work done or blog like I am now. I check my email constantly. I scroll through Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn just to see what everyone’s up to and to make sure I’m not missing out – on what? What could I possibly be missing out on that’s not right here in front of me?

You want to know what would take away some of the suffering? Self care. Whether it be talking to a therapist or life coach or following your own advice that you often give to others. Maybe, going for a drive and stopping in somewhere you haven’t been for a cup of coffee. How about closing your eyes and breathing in and out deeply for just 5 minutes? Giving someone a compliment or even a hug – chances are you both need it. Take some time for yourself and give your time to others, most importantly your close friends and family. We are given a very brief time on this earth.

Its so hard to be thoughtful about each moment because our lives are happening and we are constantly being interrupted by one thing or another. It’s up to us to shut those interruptions out and not let them get in the way of what is important. Shut the door in interruption’s face and don’t feel bad about it. Interruption does have a way of pulling you towards it so make a conscious effort to go the other way and use your energy for the good of your life instead. We have so many things in our lives that we don’t need and they add zero value. It’s like Marie Kondo says in her book the life-changing magic of tidying up, “does it bring you joy?”

Apply that same thought to non- material things that surround you. Anything that doesn’t bring you joy, let that $h!t go.

Can you pick five things off of the top of your head that you know you would be better off letting go? I can think of more than that.

3 Day Refresh – Day 1

I am so glad I’m doing this because so far it is easy peasy! It is the end of day one, I just took a bubble bath, I’m drinking a little more water and then I’m heading to bed.


Since it’s just after Memorial Day Weekend, it’s the perfect time to detox from the fun weekend. I didn’t go all out by any means but I did have more than one cheat meal! I went to the grocery store and got everything I needed which was all fruits and veggies and 3 gallons of filtered water. I wanted to get the gallons of water to ensure I was drinking enough every day. I’m drinking one a day and that should really assist in flushing out my system. In the refresh pamphlet there are some great recipes and food lists that you can pick from to prepare for the 3 days.

This morning I woke up, checked my email in bed, and then immediately made my shakeology before I got ready for the rest of the day. I added a half of banana, water, and ice to it and it tasted great. I had been drinking unsweetened almond milk with it and I honestly didn’t notice much of a difference in taste.

An hour later I had the fiber sweep which wasn’t as bad as I thought it was going to be. I put it in cold water and squeezed some fresh lemon in it, and shook it until it was all nice and blended. There were a couple of clumps at the bottom which didn’t go down as smoothly, but all in all not that bad!

For Lunch I had my vanilla fresh and added raspberries to it. I also had a cucumbers and hummus for my veggie and healthy fat. It was filling and I didn’t feel like I was missing out at all


I also got an afternoon snack. If I didn’t have that I think it would have been much harder. I prepared a couple of celery sticks with almond butter and it was the perfect snack.


Dinner was probably the hardest because I made dinner for my boyfriend. We had yummy, healthy chicken sitting in the crock pot all day. This is normally a go to meal for me because it’s so easy. I usually make him a starch and then add a veggie. Since roasted asparagus was in the recipe book I made that for his and my veggie tonight. They were sooooo good!!! 


I had to pass up the chicken and the mashed potatoes and I knew it was going to be hard, so I did the 21 day extreme upper fix workout. This made having another vanilla fresh shake soooo much easier. As an fyi, I really love the extreme workouts so far. I feel like I needed to change up my routine and my muscles are thanking me because I’m working them in a different way. That’s another reason I love beachbody. There are so many different programs to choose from so nothing ever gets old…except for maybe this vanilla fresh. I kid, I kid!!! hahaha

On to day 2!

 

 

 

21 Day Fix – Day 15

It’s Monday, Day 15! Time goes by so fast! Even so, I still don’t appreciate Monday’s as much as I should. Every day is a blessing and I should count each Monday as Saturday’s equal. I Even though I woke up early today, I didn’t fit in everything I planned to do, but I was still pretty productive. I feel like I had a mountain of email to climb today and I climbed half way up. It was more like Mount Everest than Mount Baldy (if you don’t know where that is, there is always Google). *Side note: We used to go to Mount Baldy just for the “Mount Baldy” that one of the local places served. It was a huge pile up of nachos with everything you could ever want on it. Sometimes I still dream about it…<sigh> … Anyway, I organized, I saw a customer that needed help with some bridal party gifts, talked to folks on the phone, and I did not one but two workouts!! I’ll be here all week folks, no need to applause!!

During the 3rd and final week of the 21 day fix, Autumn recommends that you do two workouts a day, one in the morning and one in the evening to re-boost your metabolism. I’m not sure if I’ll be able to do that all this week because I’m traveling so much, but I’m going to try! I’ve got my iPad with the 30 day trial of beachbody and I bought that resistance band at Walmart. I’m interested to see how I do with that instead of weights. I got the heavy one so I think that will give me a run for my money. Otherwise I’ll be running back to Walmart to get my money! Hehe

The Workout:

Total Cardio Fix – I did this in the morning and I tried to increase weights on all exercises, but on a couple I had to go back to the lighter weights. I wish I had even lighter weights for the weighted knee pulls. I’m getting better on those, but I had to do the last 15-20 seconds of each round without weights. Otherwise the tens on most of the exercises worked for me. Oh I also started out with tens during the weighted runs and switched to eights a little more than half way through each set. The tens definitely bump up the intensity and I was sweeeaaaaty (and definitely wanted to stop, but I didn’t).

Pilates – I changed back into my workout clothes and got double the sweat on. You wouldn’t think pilates would make you sweat that much, but it does! It’s so cool to see how I’m improving every week with my form and strength. I hope I’m getting addicted!



Today’s Eats:

Breakfast:

(1 1/2 red, 1/2 green)

  • 2 Veggie Frittata Muffins

and then I had another one for a snack after my first workout.

Lunch:

(1 red, 1/2 green, 1/2 blue)

  • Canned tuna with hot sauce
  • Cucumbers
  • Hummus

Snack:

(1 Green, 1/2 purple)

  • Green Juice

Dinner:

(1 red, 1 green)

  • Chicken from the crock-pot
  • Roasted zucchini & squash

Snack:

  • Protein powder with 8 oz unsweetened almond milk

So I just got this protein powder. One of my customers had given me a packet to try after she listened to what I was looking for. She carries the Raw Fit probiotics and the protein powder which is certified organic. One jug only has 10 servings I believe and I really wanted it so I ordered it online. I’m hoping I’ll like it and the next time I see her I’m going to pick up some from her. Shakeology from what I’ve seen is great, but for my diet this works better. Some shakeology flavors are dairy and gluten free so I may try those. If you don’t have any issues then I would recommend Shakeology as everyone seems to love it and the reviews are great. The Raw fit was a little gritty but I didn’t blend it at all, I just used my shaker and shook it baby! I’m used to using protein powders as a supplement and chugging them. I rarely make something tasty with them just because I use them when I’m in my car for the most part.


In other news, I had my improv class tonight with Mad Cowford which was super fun as always. I might have said this before, but it’s so much fun to see everyone grow and I have such a great group. I’ve thought about joining in before, but everything happens in it’s own time and I know I was meant to be part of this group.Everyone is so supportive of one another and I see some bonds forming. Oh I love it. We’re so cute!

Step outside of your box and try something new. You never know who you’re going to meet or what you’re going to learn about yourself. It could change your life. Sometimes change is weird, sometimes it’s hard, sometimes it makes you nervous. Most of the time it turns out to be really really good. You have to start doing something for yourself. It’s only when we truly love ourselves that we can give fully to others.

Have a wonderful week!!

2016

As another New Years Eve celebration passes and I enter into the new year I can’t help to feel anything but grateful. To wake up another day with all that I have is truly a blessing. More than anything this year I want to continue to inspire, lead by example, and share my journey with you. As a lot of successful people say “If I can do it, anyone can.” I believe that we all have the strength within ourselves to make positive choices. When we feel like all life hands us are curveballs, we have to learn which bat to use and how to hit them. I also think that having faith in God and in yourself has a lot to do with making the right choices. If there is an absence of faith, then there is most likely fear…Fear of moving forward and fear of changing your comfort zone. If you don’t believe in all encompassing God, then find something to believe in!

Becoming a successful actor is my journey. It’s the path that I’ve chosen and that has chosen me. It’s not easy. Many people that aren’t in this industry don’t understand the work that goes into it. Instead of having a 9-5 job, I’m working on aspects of this career until my head hits the pillow while successfully juggling a day job that pays the bills. My day job is perfect because it gives me the opportunity to talk to numerous people every day. I learn about their wants and needs and a lot of customers I’ve become close with let me in on the incatracies of their lives beyond their businesses. I love learning about people. I love understanding people. I love helping people. I love people.

I find that as social media expands, more people are giving their opinions on everything and personal thoughts on why the world seems to be eating them alive! The world isn’t eating you alive, you’ve just chosen to be a victim. Bad things are going to happen, others are going to say awful things to intentionally hurt you, laws are going to be passed that you don’t agree with. That shouldn’t change your behavior and your outlook on life. The world is full of bullies. Social aspects of humanity haven’t changed much from grade school to adulthood. My mom always taught me to be kind and be the bigger person when dealing with someone else who was being mean or doing wrong. I still try to follow that advice. It’s not always easy, but you have to look at the bigger picture and focus on the areas where you can have the most impact. Instead of adding fuel to someone else’s fire, concentrate on your own. How are you going to change the color of your flames in 2016? 

Be a good person, take action, and show us what you’re really made of! If you continue to do good deeds others will notice without you having to write about them. The world will treat you differently. I’m not sayin not to share, but dont do one act of kindness out of the ordinary and expect a pat on the back because of it. Make it ordinary. Kindness should be ordinary. Be kind to others, but most importantly be kind to yourself because it rubs off on everyone you touch!