Let That $h!t Go

So much to do, so little time. That saying is so true and I know we all feel it. Summer has faded into Fall, despite what the temperature may feel like in your area. Here in Jacksonville it’s still hot as a mother (oh wait, I’m a mother! Ha, I am too kind!). Since my job revolves around looking forward and sharing new trends, it makes time go by way too fast. It’s October already and the Christmas scented candles are already selling like crazy! My daughter is about to be 16 months old and with every milestone I feel like she is getting closer and closer to having her own family. Ok, that may be a bit far off, but still time flies.

My goal every day and my prayer every night is that we live in the moment. Of course I pray for a bright and healthy future for us and our world, but the moments are so much more dear. I get caught up in what could be and what will be that I tend to forget about the present. I forget that my squirmy little girl’s tantrums are something to absolutely adore because she is living loud and feeling and learning and growing. I forget that my car breaking down gives me a chance to practice patience and not be all “woe is me.” It’s the universe giving me a lesson in basic math by problem solving and figuring out a work around for my life. I let my reflexive thoughts get the best of me when something doesn’t go the way I planned instead of being thoughtful and selfless. I forget that the future just might not be.

What I notice around me is that most other people do the same thing. The more social our network is, we see more people in our network suffering. Suffering from depression, health complications, grief, anxiety, being over worked, lonely, too busy or too social and putting important things aside, or even acting like none of this exists and pretending everything is perfection. I also notice that a lot of people just want to laugh to take away some of this suffering.

My husband says I’m addicted to my phone and he’s probably right. I play mindless games when I’m not motivated to read at night or get extra work done or blog like I am now. I check my email constantly. I scroll through Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn just to see what everyone’s up to and to make sure I’m not missing out – on what? What could I possibly be missing out on that’s not right here in front of me?

You want to know what would take away some of the suffering? Self care. Whether it be talking to a therapist or life coach or following your own advice that you often give to others. Maybe, going for a drive and stopping in somewhere you haven’t been for a cup of coffee. How about closing your eyes and breathing in and out deeply for just 5 minutes? Giving someone a compliment or even a hug – chances are you both need it. Take some time for yourself and give your time to others, most importantly your close friends and family. We are given a very brief time on this earth.

Its so hard to be thoughtful about each moment because our lives are happening and we are constantly being interrupted by one thing or another. It’s up to us to shut those interruptions out and not let them get in the way of what is important. Shut the door in interruption’s face and don’t feel bad about it. Interruption does have a way of pulling you towards it so make a conscious effort to go the other way and use your energy for the good of your life instead. We have so many things in our lives that we don’t need and they add zero value. It’s like Marie Kondo says in her book the life-changing magic of tidying up, “does it bring you joy?”

Apply that same thought to non- material things that surround you. Anything that doesn’t bring you joy, let that $h!t go.

Can you pick five things off of the top of your head that you know you would be better off letting go? I can think of more than that.

How to find your brand

As an actress, more than half of the job has to do with business and not talent. Lately I’ve been learning how to manage my business and market my brand. When I started thinking more and more about this, I decided that I would start incorporating my new practices into FitFabDelish. I have a day job and I manage that business just fine. I have built relationships and I work with some of the same customers over and over again while gaining new customers. There is no difference between that business and my independent businesses.

I created fitfabdelish for three reasons, all of which are in the name.

  • Fitness & Health
  • Fashion & Cool Products
  • Food & Drink

These three things are all things that I care about and have ALWAYS cared about! However, the true core of these three things is taking care of yourself in order to be a happier, healthier you. That’s my essence, not the three categories that I focus on. To create your blog and create your brand, you have to find something that you are passionate about and that you have fun talking about all of the time. Find something that’s FUN for you and you’ll find your niche. Fashion is huge right now, but if you enjoy reading books and going to cool local bookshops and coffee shops on the weekend instead of window shopping and retail, then fashion isn’t for you. It will get old and become hard to come up with content. The other part is all about figuring out your WHY. WHY do you want to teach people about these bookstores or introduce them to the new novels your reading. WHY do you want others to know about this unique lifestyle that you lead?

What is your essence? 


What makes you YOU? Why are you unique? Essence isn’t your experiences, it’s more about your expression or how you handle your experiences.

Have you ever asked a stranger what their first impression is of you? People still judge books by their cover, which means they are judging you that way too. We judge each other by what we’re wearing, whether we’re smiling or not, whether we pull out a fancy wallet from our bag at the grocery store, or whether we have a funky paper change purse to hold all of our valuables. People judge us by how we respond when someone asks, “How are you?” People also judge us  when we walk in front of another’s moving car in the parking lot. Do you wave to say thank you, or in apology? Do you walk with conviction and authority or move in embarrassed haste? There are so many questions.

Have you ever ran into someone that tells you what color your aura is? I’ve had three different people tell me that I have a blue aura and I really don’t know what that means, but I know they tell me that because they noticed something about me right away. That was them noticing my essence right off that bat.

Finding your brand has everything to do with finding your true essence. Find your passion and make it work for you. We all have something unique about ourselves. You may not even have a clue as to what it is. Ask ten people what they find special about you and I’ll bet you’ll get a similar answer most of the time. Take those special things and use them. It’s much easier to work with what we already have at hand, than trying to reinvent ourselves with what we think othwers will deem cool.

You are your brand. Embrace it and the rest will come! 

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21 Day Fix – Day 21

I just want to start by wishing all of my mama readers a very happy Mother’s Day! Ihope, even if your children aren’t with you, that you are being celebrated. I believe children learn the most from their parents, and moms in particular, are a guiding light. I’ve learned all of life’s most important lessons from my mom and she’s the best example of the type of person I want to be. She never speaks negatively of anyone except for this one guy on a commercial that comes on all of the time (Who knows how he got cast). She always looks at things objectively, she gives more than she receives, she forgives, loves wholly, helps those who have less and those who have more, and treats everyone as equals. She’s understanding, she listens, she smiles at strangers because she wants them to smile, she’s empathetic, kind, smart, beautiful, strong, resilient, and wishes the best for everyone. She never gives up on me when I feel like giving up on myself and that’s what makes me keep going at the end of the day. I have no idea how I got so extremely lucky. I could say all of the same for my dad (but it’s Mother’s Day!). In my opinion both of my parents are as close to perfect as you can possibly be. Mother’s you are your child’s blessing, just as they are yours.Through my mother I see, and I know Gods love. If I become a mother I hope I can somehow compare. Thank you mom!!

Yesterday was so fun and busy that I was too exhausted to blog last night. You didn’t miss much though. The day started off pretty well with my workout and healthy breakfast but moving on from there it all went downhill. I’m not upset about it though. I knew what my choices were and I knew I was going to have to make up for it afterwards. 

My boyfriend and I hung out with my parents all weekend and went to the Blind Willie Blues Festival in Thomson, GA. I’ll be posting a video of it on my TownieGirl YouTube channel, so if you’re interested please subscribe and you’ll get an update when I post it this week. It was a lot of fun! It’s such a great annual event and this is the second time we have been. I highly recommend it! I had a few beers and snacked on treats pretty much all day. When we went for dinner I got a perfect juicy hamburger and I enjoyed every bit of it. My belly wasn’t really thanking me, but my tastebuds were.


Today I woke up and ate some fruit then took my boyfriend to the airport. I’m still out of town so checked in to a hotel, got some healthy groceries, and got my yoga in. Plus I did one of the workouts from the 22 minute hardcore series. It worked me! This is the last day of the 21 day fix for me and I’ll be posting my results on Tuesday when I’m finally home and have access to the tape measure. That doesn’t mean I’m stopping. I’m starting over again tomorrow! This week I’m going to learn more about what it takes to be a coach so you’ll get new updates on that as well. Please let me know if you’d like to join any challenges and I’ll update you when I’m close starting a new one so you can jump on board. 

21 Day Fix – Day 15

It’s Monday, Day 15! Time goes by so fast! Even so, I still don’t appreciate Monday’s as much as I should. Every day is a blessing and I should count each Monday as Saturday’s equal. I Even though I woke up early today, I didn’t fit in everything I planned to do, but I was still pretty productive. I feel like I had a mountain of email to climb today and I climbed half way up. It was more like Mount Everest than Mount Baldy (if you don’t know where that is, there is always Google). *Side note: We used to go to Mount Baldy just for the “Mount Baldy” that one of the local places served. It was a huge pile up of nachos with everything you could ever want on it. Sometimes I still dream about it…<sigh> … Anyway, I organized, I saw a customer that needed help with some bridal party gifts, talked to folks on the phone, and I did not one but two workouts!! I’ll be here all week folks, no need to applause!!

During the 3rd and final week of the 21 day fix, Autumn recommends that you do two workouts a day, one in the morning and one in the evening to re-boost your metabolism. I’m not sure if I’ll be able to do that all this week because I’m traveling so much, but I’m going to try! I’ve got my iPad with the 30 day trial of beachbody and I bought that resistance band at Walmart. I’m interested to see how I do with that instead of weights. I got the heavy one so I think that will give me a run for my money. Otherwise I’ll be running back to Walmart to get my money! Hehe

The Workout:

Total Cardio Fix – I did this in the morning and I tried to increase weights on all exercises, but on a couple I had to go back to the lighter weights. I wish I had even lighter weights for the weighted knee pulls. I’m getting better on those, but I had to do the last 15-20 seconds of each round without weights. Otherwise the tens on most of the exercises worked for me. Oh I also started out with tens during the weighted runs and switched to eights a little more than half way through each set. The tens definitely bump up the intensity and I was sweeeaaaaty (and definitely wanted to stop, but I didn’t).

Pilates – I changed back into my workout clothes and got double the sweat on. You wouldn’t think pilates would make you sweat that much, but it does! It’s so cool to see how I’m improving every week with my form and strength. I hope I’m getting addicted!



Today’s Eats:

Breakfast:

(1 1/2 red, 1/2 green)

  • 2 Veggie Frittata Muffins

and then I had another one for a snack after my first workout.

Lunch:

(1 red, 1/2 green, 1/2 blue)

  • Canned tuna with hot sauce
  • Cucumbers
  • Hummus

Snack:

(1 Green, 1/2 purple)

  • Green Juice

Dinner:

(1 red, 1 green)

  • Chicken from the crock-pot
  • Roasted zucchini & squash

Snack:

  • Protein powder with 8 oz unsweetened almond milk

So I just got this protein powder. One of my customers had given me a packet to try after she listened to what I was looking for. She carries the Raw Fit probiotics and the protein powder which is certified organic. One jug only has 10 servings I believe and I really wanted it so I ordered it online. I’m hoping I’ll like it and the next time I see her I’m going to pick up some from her. Shakeology from what I’ve seen is great, but for my diet this works better. Some shakeology flavors are dairy and gluten free so I may try those. If you don’t have any issues then I would recommend Shakeology as everyone seems to love it and the reviews are great. The Raw fit was a little gritty but I didn’t blend it at all, I just used my shaker and shook it baby! I’m used to using protein powders as a supplement and chugging them. I rarely make something tasty with them just because I use them when I’m in my car for the most part.


In other news, I had my improv class tonight with Mad Cowford which was super fun as always. I might have said this before, but it’s so much fun to see everyone grow and I have such a great group. I’ve thought about joining in before, but everything happens in it’s own time and I know I was meant to be part of this group.Everyone is so supportive of one another and I see some bonds forming. Oh I love it. We’re so cute!

Step outside of your box and try something new. You never know who you’re going to meet or what you’re going to learn about yourself. It could change your life. Sometimes change is weird, sometimes it’s hard, sometimes it makes you nervous. Most of the time it turns out to be really really good. You have to start doing something for yourself. It’s only when we truly love ourselves that we can give fully to others.

Have a wonderful week!!