Let That $h!t Go

So much to do, so little time. That saying is so true and I know we all feel it. Summer has faded into Fall, despite what the temperature may feel like in your area. Here in Jacksonville it’s still hot as a mother (oh wait, I’m a mother! Ha, I am too kind!). Since my job revolves around looking forward and sharing new trends, it makes time go by way too fast. It’s October already and the Christmas scented candles are already selling like crazy! My daughter is about to be 16 months old and with every milestone I feel like she is getting closer and closer to having her own family. Ok, that may be a bit far off, but still time flies.

My goal every day and my prayer every night is that we live in the moment. Of course I pray for a bright and healthy future for us and our world, but the moments are so much more dear. I get caught up in what could be and what will be that I tend to forget about the present. I forget that my squirmy little girl’s tantrums are something to absolutely adore because she is living loud and feeling and learning and growing. I forget that my car breaking down gives me a chance to practice patience and not be all “woe is me.” It’s the universe giving me a lesson in basic math by problem solving and figuring out a work around for my life. I let my reflexive thoughts get the best of me when something doesn’t go the way I planned instead of being thoughtful and selfless. I forget that the future just might not be.

What I notice around me is that most other people do the same thing. The more social our network is, we see more people in our network suffering. Suffering from depression, health complications, grief, anxiety, being over worked, lonely, too busy or too social and putting important things aside, or even acting like none of this exists and pretending everything is perfection. I also notice that a lot of people just want to laugh to take away some of this suffering.

My husband says I’m addicted to my phone and he’s probably right. I play mindless games when I’m not motivated to read at night or get extra work done or blog like I am now. I check my email constantly. I scroll through Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn just to see what everyone’s up to and to make sure I’m not missing out – on what? What could I possibly be missing out on that’s not right here in front of me?

You want to know what would take away some of the suffering? Self care. Whether it be talking to a therapist or life coach or following your own advice that you often give to others. Maybe, going for a drive and stopping in somewhere you haven’t been for a cup of coffee. How about closing your eyes and breathing in and out deeply for just 5 minutes? Giving someone a compliment or even a hug – chances are you both need it. Take some time for yourself and give your time to others, most importantly your close friends and family. We are given a very brief time on this earth.

Its so hard to be thoughtful about each moment because our lives are happening and we are constantly being interrupted by one thing or another. It’s up to us to shut those interruptions out and not let them get in the way of what is important. Shut the door in interruption’s face and don’t feel bad about it. Interruption does have a way of pulling you towards it so make a conscious effort to go the other way and use your energy for the good of your life instead. We have so many things in our lives that we don’t need and they add zero value. It’s like Marie Kondo says in her book the life-changing magic of tidying up, “does it bring you joy?”

Apply that same thought to non- material things that surround you. Anything that doesn’t bring you joy, let that $h!t go.

Can you pick five things off of the top of your head that you know you would be better off letting go? I can think of more than that.

High Fives and Hello’s

Milestones. I call every single new thing my baby does a “milestone.” Most recently she says “Hi” and “uh-oh” all the time and loves to give high fives. I am so amazed by the smallest things and obviously I think shes the absolute smartest baby in the world!

Motherhood is so funny at times, especially when I’m having an out of body experience and watching myself react to all of the different ways she’s growing. Its wonderful and hilarious to see the things my husband and I will do just to get a smirk or a little laughter from our tiny human.

Now that she is nearing the 1 year mark I don’t even know what feelings the next milestones will invoke. I mean I know she’ll be walking and talking soon and creating great big huge milestones, but I have a feeling they won’t feel quite as big or important as the first giggle, the first time she rolled to her tummy, or the first time she signed for milk. Though, they will be much bigger and more important because she won’t be attached to me anymore. She just started to realize in the last few months that we are in fact, not physically attached. I don’t know if either of us can take it sometimes!

She’ll start walking and talking and the years will fly by and she’ll go on her very first date! She’ll get her drivers license and I know I’ll worry more then than I do now while she’s completely under my watchful wing. The milestones are what I look forward to, but they are also what I’m afraid of. I’m afraid as the milestones get easier for her and start happening closer together that they’ll just get that much harder for me.

Motherhood is one of the best things that ever happened to me and from the very beginning it’s been the toughest. I’ve never felt the need to protect, to love, to give to any human as much as I feel the need now. What’s funny is I feel the need to love and protect and give more to myself now too. I know my daughter needs a strong, healthy, giving, caring, and smart mother to look up to and I want to be exactly that. Since I’m afraid of all of the milestones she’ll experience while growing up, I must grow with her and create my own.

Working on myself and on my goals and creating a vision for the mother I want to be is becoming more of a priority than ever. Maybe my daughter will clap her hands and say “Go Mommy!” when she notices my achievements, haha!

What have been your favorite milestones while watching your child(ren) grow? Please leave a comment below!

NO DAY BUT TODAY

Yes, the title of this post is taken from a song in one of my favorite musicals RENT! RENT deals with a group of people, who despite their circumstances, rise above so much and realize that every moment counts. It’s about love and loss, moving on and finding out that in order to improve your circumstances you have to adapt to change and fight for what’s right, for those you love, and for yourself.

So much of our fight is inner dialogue that other can’t see on the outside. Lately I’ve been so overwhelmed because I have so much to do. Instead of picking a task and conquering it, I wallow in my own thoughts and get upset because I don’t know what the first step is in tackling a job or making one thing a priority over any other. I mean, I still have my Christmas Tree up and it’s February. I go from “well, ugh-maybe I should just leave it up for the rest of the year,” and all of these other passive aggressive inner thoughts when in reality I just need to stop what I am doing and start removing ornaments!

Last year a friend recommended a time scheduling app called Be Focused. I downloaded it onto my computer and it was a game changer. I used it religiously for a while and then started to get the hang of the timing on my own (or so I thought) so eventually stopped. Well, one tiny little break led to multiple unscheduled breaks and I completely lost my FOCUS! I’ve decided that I better get back on track and start using the app again because I know that it helps me to concentrate on one task at a time. Check it out if you are constantly checking social media at work (unless that is your work), taking a break to play candy crush, or just zoning out!

I find that routine truly helps my stress level and my productivity. I normally navigate through my week trying to multitask. Getting everything done that I need to get done seems nearly impossible. Since I work from home and mostly from my car, I have to adapt to change pretty much daily. I work by appointment so normally I know when I’ll have a break, but I have to be very conscious of what I do during that break so I don’t waste valuable time. I understand, now more than ever, that time is so important because the seconds go by so fast. I was always taught to anticipate other’s needs. Well sister, I have to start anticipating my own needs in order to keep a positive outlook and not become overwhelmed.

This weekend, my plan is to enjoy the time I have with my family, but I am also going to remove some of the chaos from my life by trying to map out a routine for my week to come.

Today, I am taking down the damn Christmas tree!

Being overwhelmed and stressed isn’t good for me, but it isn’t good for anyone around me either. A healthy lifestyle isn’t just about eating healthy foods and being active, it’s mostly about being happy (which those things definitely help in the happy department). I have to remind myself that in the grand scheme of things, everything we worry about is so very minute. So if you feel like your life is a shitshow, OWN it or take the steps to IMPROVE it. I think I’ll do both!

How to find your brand

As an actress, more than half of the job has to do with business and not talent. Lately I’ve been learning how to manage my business and market my brand. When I started thinking more and more about this, I decided that I would start incorporating my new practices into FitFabDelish. I have a day job and I manage that business just fine. I have built relationships and I work with some of the same customers over and over again while gaining new customers. There is no difference between that business and my independent businesses.

I created fitfabdelish for three reasons, all of which are in the name.

  • Fitness & Health
  • Fashion & Cool Products
  • Food & Drink

These three things are all things that I care about and have ALWAYS cared about! However, the true core of these three things is taking care of yourself in order to be a happier, healthier you. That’s my essence, not the three categories that I focus on. To create your blog and create your brand, you have to find something that you are passionate about and that you have fun talking about all of the time. Find something that’s FUN for you and you’ll find your niche. Fashion is huge right now, but if you enjoy reading books and going to cool local bookshops and coffee shops on the weekend instead of window shopping and retail, then fashion isn’t for you. It will get old and become hard to come up with content. The other part is all about figuring out your WHY. WHY do you want to teach people about these bookstores or introduce them to the new novels your reading. WHY do you want others to know about this unique lifestyle that you lead?

What is your essence? 


What makes you YOU? Why are you unique? Essence isn’t your experiences, it’s more about your expression or how you handle your experiences.

Have you ever asked a stranger what their first impression is of you? People still judge books by their cover, which means they are judging you that way too. We judge each other by what we’re wearing, whether we’re smiling or not, whether we pull out a fancy wallet from our bag at the grocery store, or whether we have a funky paper change purse to hold all of our valuables. People judge us by how we respond when someone asks, “How are you?” People also judge us  when we walk in front of another’s moving car in the parking lot. Do you wave to say thank you, or in apology? Do you walk with conviction and authority or move in embarrassed haste? There are so many questions.

Have you ever ran into someone that tells you what color your aura is? I’ve had three different people tell me that I have a blue aura and I really don’t know what that means, but I know they tell me that because they noticed something about me right away. That was them noticing my essence right off that bat.

Finding your brand has everything to do with finding your true essence. Find your passion and make it work for you. We all have something unique about ourselves. You may not even have a clue as to what it is. Ask ten people what they find special about you and I’ll bet you’ll get a similar answer most of the time. Take those special things and use them. It’s much easier to work with what we already have at hand, than trying to reinvent ourselves with what we think othwers will deem cool.

You are your brand. Embrace it and the rest will come! 

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Lucky Feather

This week I am going to tell you all about Lucky Feather. No, I’m not talking about a bird feather that’s meant to be a token of luck like a rabbit’s foot (which is kind of gross when you think about it. What if a rabbit was carrying around a human foot because he thought it was meant to bring him luck? Eww). I’m talking about a jewelry line!

Lucky Feather is the cutest jewelry and gift line filled with good energy and inspiration! This year marks the 10th anniversary of the brand, and what better time to talk about it than now, when they are in boutiques and gifts shops everywhere and spreading their beauty across the world. Every season, the lovely ladies at Lucky Feather design new pieces that are accommodating to all of the new fashion trends. Following the emoji addictions of the millennial generation and the huge audience of icon fanatics, each piece of jewelry accessorizes any outfit gorgeously.

Not only are they trendy and chic, but they are also inspirational. Many of the jewelry pieces come carded with beautiful words meant to inspire, show appreciation, give love, and so on. Other pieces have the words engraved right on them. I have a couple of examples of my favorites below.

One of the best things about this line is that it’s similar to a greeting card line, in that there is something for every occasion. Whether you are looking for something for a young lady on her birthday, a bridesmaid’s gift, a mother’s day moment, or a special memento “just because,” then you will be able to find it here. Oh yes, and there are even presents for your posh pets!

What makes this line so special is the women behind it. One of the reasons I pick some of the brands I talk about, is because I’m given the opportunity to meet the people who bring those brands alive. These ladies are changing the world, once piece of jewelry and a smile at a time. They are humble, loving, giving, and Lucky Feather is a true representation of who they are. Do yourself a favor and give someone the gift of Lucky Feather today! Click on the link above so you can browse all of these perfectly pretty pieces!

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21 Day Fix – Day 21

I just want to start by wishing all of my mama readers a very happy Mother’s Day! Ihope, even if your children aren’t with you, that you are being celebrated. I believe children learn the most from their parents, and moms in particular, are a guiding light. I’ve learned all of life’s most important lessons from my mom and she’s the best example of the type of person I want to be. She never speaks negatively of anyone except for this one guy on a commercial that comes on all of the time (Who knows how he got cast). She always looks at things objectively, she gives more than she receives, she forgives, loves wholly, helps those who have less and those who have more, and treats everyone as equals. She’s understanding, she listens, she smiles at strangers because she wants them to smile, she’s empathetic, kind, smart, beautiful, strong, resilient, and wishes the best for everyone. She never gives up on me when I feel like giving up on myself and that’s what makes me keep going at the end of the day. I have no idea how I got so extremely lucky. I could say all of the same for my dad (but it’s Mother’s Day!). In my opinion both of my parents are as close to perfect as you can possibly be. Mother’s you are your child’s blessing, just as they are yours.Through my mother I see, and I know Gods love. If I become a mother I hope I can somehow compare. Thank you mom!!

Yesterday was so fun and busy that I was too exhausted to blog last night. You didn’t miss much though. The day started off pretty well with my workout and healthy breakfast but moving on from there it all went downhill. I’m not upset about it though. I knew what my choices were and I knew I was going to have to make up for it afterwards. 

My boyfriend and I hung out with my parents all weekend and went to the Blind Willie Blues Festival in Thomson, GA. I’ll be posting a video of it on my TownieGirl YouTube channel, so if you’re interested please subscribe and you’ll get an update when I post it this week. It was a lot of fun! It’s such a great annual event and this is the second time we have been. I highly recommend it! I had a few beers and snacked on treats pretty much all day. When we went for dinner I got a perfect juicy hamburger and I enjoyed every bit of it. My belly wasn’t really thanking me, but my tastebuds were.


Today I woke up and ate some fruit then took my boyfriend to the airport. I’m still out of town so checked in to a hotel, got some healthy groceries, and got my yoga in. Plus I did one of the workouts from the 22 minute hardcore series. It worked me! This is the last day of the 21 day fix for me and I’ll be posting my results on Tuesday when I’m finally home and have access to the tape measure. That doesn’t mean I’m stopping. I’m starting over again tomorrow! This week I’m going to learn more about what it takes to be a coach so you’ll get new updates on that as well. Please let me know if you’d like to join any challenges and I’ll update you when I’m close starting a new one so you can jump on board. 

21 Day Fix – Day 15

It’s Monday, Day 15! Time goes by so fast! Even so, I still don’t appreciate Monday’s as much as I should. Every day is a blessing and I should count each Monday as Saturday’s equal. I Even though I woke up early today, I didn’t fit in everything I planned to do, but I was still pretty productive. I feel like I had a mountain of email to climb today and I climbed half way up. It was more like Mount Everest than Mount Baldy (if you don’t know where that is, there is always Google). *Side note: We used to go to Mount Baldy just for the “Mount Baldy” that one of the local places served. It was a huge pile up of nachos with everything you could ever want on it. Sometimes I still dream about it…<sigh> … Anyway, I organized, I saw a customer that needed help with some bridal party gifts, talked to folks on the phone, and I did not one but two workouts!! I’ll be here all week folks, no need to applause!!

During the 3rd and final week of the 21 day fix, Autumn recommends that you do two workouts a day, one in the morning and one in the evening to re-boost your metabolism. I’m not sure if I’ll be able to do that all this week because I’m traveling so much, but I’m going to try! I’ve got my iPad with the 30 day trial of beachbody and I bought that resistance band at Walmart. I’m interested to see how I do with that instead of weights. I got the heavy one so I think that will give me a run for my money. Otherwise I’ll be running back to Walmart to get my money! Hehe

The Workout:

Total Cardio Fix – I did this in the morning and I tried to increase weights on all exercises, but on a couple I had to go back to the lighter weights. I wish I had even lighter weights for the weighted knee pulls. I’m getting better on those, but I had to do the last 15-20 seconds of each round without weights. Otherwise the tens on most of the exercises worked for me. Oh I also started out with tens during the weighted runs and switched to eights a little more than half way through each set. The tens definitely bump up the intensity and I was sweeeaaaaty (and definitely wanted to stop, but I didn’t).

Pilates – I changed back into my workout clothes and got double the sweat on. You wouldn’t think pilates would make you sweat that much, but it does! It’s so cool to see how I’m improving every week with my form and strength. I hope I’m getting addicted!



Today’s Eats:

Breakfast:

(1 1/2 red, 1/2 green)

  • 2 Veggie Frittata Muffins

and then I had another one for a snack after my first workout.

Lunch:

(1 red, 1/2 green, 1/2 blue)

  • Canned tuna with hot sauce
  • Cucumbers
  • Hummus

Snack:

(1 Green, 1/2 purple)

  • Green Juice

Dinner:

(1 red, 1 green)

  • Chicken from the crock-pot
  • Roasted zucchini & squash

Snack:

  • Protein powder with 8 oz unsweetened almond milk

So I just got this protein powder. One of my customers had given me a packet to try after she listened to what I was looking for. She carries the Raw Fit probiotics and the protein powder which is certified organic. One jug only has 10 servings I believe and I really wanted it so I ordered it online. I’m hoping I’ll like it and the next time I see her I’m going to pick up some from her. Shakeology from what I’ve seen is great, but for my diet this works better. Some shakeology flavors are dairy and gluten free so I may try those. If you don’t have any issues then I would recommend Shakeology as everyone seems to love it and the reviews are great. The Raw fit was a little gritty but I didn’t blend it at all, I just used my shaker and shook it baby! I’m used to using protein powders as a supplement and chugging them. I rarely make something tasty with them just because I use them when I’m in my car for the most part.


In other news, I had my improv class tonight with Mad Cowford which was super fun as always. I might have said this before, but it’s so much fun to see everyone grow and I have such a great group. I’ve thought about joining in before, but everything happens in it’s own time and I know I was meant to be part of this group.Everyone is so supportive of one another and I see some bonds forming. Oh I love it. We’re so cute!

Step outside of your box and try something new. You never know who you’re going to meet or what you’re going to learn about yourself. It could change your life. Sometimes change is weird, sometimes it’s hard, sometimes it makes you nervous. Most of the time it turns out to be really really good. You have to start doing something for yourself. It’s only when we truly love ourselves that we can give fully to others.

Have a wonderful week!!

21 Day Fix – Day 13

I’m going to be a weekend warrior. Who’s coming with me?!

 

I feel like I can’t ever sleep in on the weekends unless I’m camping when I should be waking up early to sieze the day and natural wonders whichever park we are exploring. That’s not the case though as I woke up at 7:30 this morning. I really woke up before that but I closed my eyes in hopes I would fall back asleep. I just lay there and then a thought came to me. “Crap, I didn’t post my blog from yesterday!!!”…
So up I got, coffee on the burner & breakfast made, blog complete. 

There’s so much I wanted to get done today but I prioritized my workout so I could get it over with and focus on everything else like laundry and grocery shopping. Yes, I could use the hashtag #adulting, but that’s just silly and overused. I’d rather just call myself a #maturemaiden because I’m so responsible!

The Workout:

Dirty 30 – People usually love this workout and I like it just fine. I think I would love any workout afte cardio fix though. I’m using the 10lb weights and it feels good. 

Today’s Eats:

Breakfast

(1/2 green, 1 red, 1/2 blue, 1 tsp) 

  • Scrambled eggs with shredded cheddar
  • Broccoli & mushrooms in coconut oil 

+ a cup of coffee which I only drank half of. I don’t know what the deal with coffee and me is. I can’t drink a full cup in the morning, but that’s a good thing I suppose. Maybe I’ll have an iced coffee later for a little pick me up.

Lunch:

(1 yellow, 1 red)

  • Canned tuna
  • Black beans
  • Hot sauce

Right now I’m folding my second load of laundry and watching Jane the Virgin on Netflix. She’s planning a wedding and this wedding cake is really having an effect on me…mmmm tuna…

Snack:

(1 purple, 1 green)

  • Strawberry and spinach smoothie

That was the last thing I remember. I blacked out on the rest of the day…

Just kidding. So I went to a graduation party and there was a table of food. I could have made all great choices and I didn’t. I started off with a chicken wing and a glass of wine. Next thing I know there is a jello shot and a cracker with brown sugar and bacon in my hand. I thought, “Hey, it’s a celebration and my taste buds want to party!” Well party they did. Compared to yesterday this was definitely a cheat evening. System shocked. My tennis date just got cancelled for Sunday so I’ll fit in an extra workout somewhere in there…

It’s not the end of the world. Sometimes you’re going to eat things that aren’t the best for your body, and that’s fine. You’re creating a healthy lifestyle by eating right and exercising most of the time. If you’re doing the 21 day fix and you’re seeing results, those aren’t going to go away with a couple of slips. The only way they change is if you slip and fall and don’t get back up. It’s up to you to shake it off and get back to your routine. I used to beat myself up if I made unhealthy choices and now I shrug it off and move on. That’s what we should do with anything ugly that we cross on our paths. Shrug them off and move on. It does nothing for our well being to focus on negative energies. It’s up to us to turn the negative into a positive. So on Sunday I’m going to be proud of myself for kickstarting another healthy week. Let the meal prep begin!

21 Day Fix – Day 6

 Saturday’s are for fun, but it helps when you get your workout done before the party starts or you veg on the couch with an all day Netflix binge. Let’s face it, we all love those days!

Today we actually slept in which is rare for us. We bounced out of our tent at about 9am and went to get some firewood from the ranger station. When we got back, I got out my mat and weights, set up my camera and pressed record. Once you hit that play button on your DVD player you hit the point of no return!

The workout:

  • Dirty 30

I am doing the 30 day free trial of the Beachbody on demand app. I feel like since I already payed for the 21 day fix workouts I should be able to stream those for free anyway, but of course not. That’s how they get you! I am using my iPad to stream them and it stopped loading midway so I had to reload the page and find my spot. I jogged in place for a little while I was waiting. When I was done working out I went to my camera and found that it stopped recording! I didn’t get the whole workout on film, but I think I got at least the first two rounds. 

We also went for a little walk along the nature trail and went canoeing for 2 hours which was so nice. By the end of the night I was ready to rest!

Today’s Eats:

Breakfast

(1 purple, 1 1/2 red, 1/2 blue)

  • 2 over easy eggs with cheese
  • Strawberries & raspberries
  • Blackened mahi mahi
  • 1 cup of coffee with almond milk and stevia

Oh that bacon over the campfire smelled sooo good. Where oh where in the world is this will power coming from Jules?

I brought my containers with me so was able to measure my fruits. The salad from last night that I was going to eat today for lunch didn’t look so hot so I reheated the rest of the fish over the fire and added that to my breakfast. A little extra Protien after a workout never hurts!

Lunch:

(1/2 green, 1 red, I purple)

  • Turkey lettuce wraps 
  • More berries

So self explanatory – turkey wrapped in lettuce!

Dinner:

(1 1/2 green, 1 red, 1 yellow, 1 orange, 1/2 blue)

  • Slaw with baked chicken, feta cheese, & Dijon approved dressing
  • Sweet potatoe fries

I packed this dinner for the trip because I knew I needed a healthy option for tonight. We made sweet potato fries (wrapped in tinfoil and thrown in the coals)as a side. I wasn’t a big fan. They were kind of mushy. My boyfriend had crescent dogs roasted over the fire which looked delish. The Dijon vinaigrette that I made had way too much olive oil for my liking…so I won’t share that recipe! 

Snack: 

….I might have had an extra piece of cheese (1/2 blue)

I might not have! You can believe whichever you’d like.

2016

As another New Years Eve celebration passes and I enter into the new year I can’t help to feel anything but grateful. To wake up another day with all that I have is truly a blessing. More than anything this year I want to continue to inspire, lead by example, and share my journey with you. As a lot of successful people say “If I can do it, anyone can.” I believe that we all have the strength within ourselves to make positive choices. When we feel like all life hands us are curveballs, we have to learn which bat to use and how to hit them. I also think that having faith in God and in yourself has a lot to do with making the right choices. If there is an absence of faith, then there is most likely fear…Fear of moving forward and fear of changing your comfort zone. If you don’t believe in all encompassing God, then find something to believe in!

Becoming a successful actor is my journey. It’s the path that I’ve chosen and that has chosen me. It’s not easy. Many people that aren’t in this industry don’t understand the work that goes into it. Instead of having a 9-5 job, I’m working on aspects of this career until my head hits the pillow while successfully juggling a day job that pays the bills. My day job is perfect because it gives me the opportunity to talk to numerous people every day. I learn about their wants and needs and a lot of customers I’ve become close with let me in on the incatracies of their lives beyond their businesses. I love learning about people. I love understanding people. I love helping people. I love people.

I find that as social media expands, more people are giving their opinions on everything and personal thoughts on why the world seems to be eating them alive! The world isn’t eating you alive, you’ve just chosen to be a victim. Bad things are going to happen, others are going to say awful things to intentionally hurt you, laws are going to be passed that you don’t agree with. That shouldn’t change your behavior and your outlook on life. The world is full of bullies. Social aspects of humanity haven’t changed much from grade school to adulthood. My mom always taught me to be kind and be the bigger person when dealing with someone else who was being mean or doing wrong. I still try to follow that advice. It’s not always easy, but you have to look at the bigger picture and focus on the areas where you can have the most impact. Instead of adding fuel to someone else’s fire, concentrate on your own. How are you going to change the color of your flames in 2016? 

Be a good person, take action, and show us what you’re really made of! If you continue to do good deeds others will notice without you having to write about them. The world will treat you differently. I’m not sayin not to share, but dont do one act of kindness out of the ordinary and expect a pat on the back because of it. Make it ordinary. Kindness should be ordinary. Be kind to others, but most importantly be kind to yourself because it rubs off on everyone you touch!