Let That $h!t Go

So much to do, so little time. That saying is so true and I know we all feel it. Summer has faded into Fall, despite what the temperature may feel like in your area. Here in Jacksonville it’s still hot as a mother (oh wait, I’m a mother! Ha, I am too kind!). Since my job revolves around looking forward and sharing new trends, it makes time go by way too fast. It’s October already and the Christmas scented candles are already selling like crazy! My daughter is about to be 16 months old and with every milestone I feel like she is getting closer and closer to having her own family. Ok, that may be a bit far off, but still time flies.

My goal every day and my prayer every night is that we live in the moment. Of course I pray for a bright and healthy future for us and our world, but the moments are so much more dear. I get caught up in what could be and what will be that I tend to forget about the present. I forget that my squirmy little girl’s tantrums are something to absolutely adore because she is living loud and feeling and learning and growing. I forget that my car breaking down gives me a chance to practice patience and not be all “woe is me.” It’s the universe giving me a lesson in basic math by problem solving and figuring out a work around for my life. I let my reflexive thoughts get the best of me when something doesn’t go the way I planned instead of being thoughtful and selfless. I forget that the future just might not be.

What I notice around me is that most other people do the same thing. The more social our network is, we see more people in our network suffering. Suffering from depression, health complications, grief, anxiety, being over worked, lonely, too busy or too social and putting important things aside, or even acting like none of this exists and pretending everything is perfection. I also notice that a lot of people just want to laugh to take away some of this suffering.

My husband says I’m addicted to my phone and he’s probably right. I play mindless games when I’m not motivated to read at night or get extra work done or blog like I am now. I check my email constantly. I scroll through Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn just to see what everyone’s up to and to make sure I’m not missing out – on what? What could I possibly be missing out on that’s not right here in front of me?

You want to know what would take away some of the suffering? Self care. Whether it be talking to a therapist or life coach or following your own advice that you often give to others. Maybe, going for a drive and stopping in somewhere you haven’t been for a cup of coffee. How about closing your eyes and breathing in and out deeply for just 5 minutes? Giving someone a compliment or even a hug – chances are you both need it. Take some time for yourself and give your time to others, most importantly your close friends and family. We are given a very brief time on this earth.

Its so hard to be thoughtful about each moment because our lives are happening and we are constantly being interrupted by one thing or another. It’s up to us to shut those interruptions out and not let them get in the way of what is important. Shut the door in interruption’s face and don’t feel bad about it. Interruption does have a way of pulling you towards it so make a conscious effort to go the other way and use your energy for the good of your life instead. We have so many things in our lives that we don’t need and they add zero value. It’s like Marie Kondo says in her book the life-changing magic of tidying up, “does it bring you joy?”

Apply that same thought to non- material things that surround you. Anything that doesn’t bring you joy, let that $h!t go.

Can you pick five things off of the top of your head that you know you would be better off letting go? I can think of more than that.

Showing Off on Social

My life looks like pure magic lately! It looks like everything is so fabulous lately, and really when I look at the big picture I hate to say it, because I don’t want to make you jealous, but it really is!!  I mean, I get to do soooo many fun things!!!

With that said, I have had some really bad days recently.

We were in a car crash on Easter and have been down to one car for about two weeks now because of several things going on with the insurance and the multiple vehicles involved. No, it wasn’t even our fault!

I am constantly playing catch up with work and I feel like I will never be completely caught up but am doing the best I can. To top that off, my laptop (which I just payed off after 2 years) just crashed. It has my entire life on it I feel like and doesn’t help work a bit. After compiling document after document to become more organized with work, I have no access.

As soon as I think I have it all kind of together my daughter gets sick. Do you know that a 10 month old sick baby girl needs more attention than a fine dining restaurant ridden with rodents? Well, now you do.

My debit card fell into the river after I bolted out of the car to check on my daughter after the crash. We all know how it feels when we have to change cards. You have to connect the dots and figure out everyone who deducts a payment for a bill. Sometimes it’s seriously a mystery and then you get a phone call or an email and ding ding ding, lights on!

Wait, so why do I think my life is so fabulous? Because it is!!! It took me a lot of time, grief, and growing up to realize it. My life is completely unreal and perfectly imperfect. Sometimes something hits me in the face and I impulsively want to scream out, but I make sure to become aware of my emotion and raise my gratitude towards God for my beautiful life. I have the most amazing husband who loves me to no end. I have a beautiful step-daughter who is probably one of the most grown up teenagers I’ve ever met and much much smarter than me. I have a baby girl that is incredible and lights up my life every day. Plus, the amazing family and friends that are near and far away bring so much positivity to my life. That, is what life is all about. The small things are pretty stupid in the grand scheme. It’s time to dumb the dumb things down.

Every time I look out at a crowd I think, “Wow.” Every one of us thinks we’re so important and we each have things and emotions and needs that we think are so important as well. Sometimes, you just have to step back and look at the big picture.

I notice that when I do, I’m nurtured with blessings that I didn’t even know were going to exist. Some of those blessings I share on social and some of them I keep for myself. Xo Julie Ann

3 Day Refresh – Day 1

I am so glad I’m doing this because so far it is easy peasy! It is the end of day one, I just took a bubble bath, I’m drinking a little more water and then I’m heading to bed.


Since it’s just after Memorial Day Weekend, it’s the perfect time to detox from the fun weekend. I didn’t go all out by any means but I did have more than one cheat meal! I went to the grocery store and got everything I needed which was all fruits and veggies and 3 gallons of filtered water. I wanted to get the gallons of water to ensure I was drinking enough every day. I’m drinking one a day and that should really assist in flushing out my system. In the refresh pamphlet there are some great recipes and food lists that you can pick from to prepare for the 3 days.

This morning I woke up, checked my email in bed, and then immediately made my shakeology before I got ready for the rest of the day. I added a half of banana, water, and ice to it and it tasted great. I had been drinking unsweetened almond milk with it and I honestly didn’t notice much of a difference in taste.

An hour later I had the fiber sweep which wasn’t as bad as I thought it was going to be. I put it in cold water and squeezed some fresh lemon in it, and shook it until it was all nice and blended. There were a couple of clumps at the bottom which didn’t go down as smoothly, but all in all not that bad!

For Lunch I had my vanilla fresh and added raspberries to it. I also had a cucumbers and hummus for my veggie and healthy fat. It was filling and I didn’t feel like I was missing out at all


I also got an afternoon snack. If I didn’t have that I think it would have been much harder. I prepared a couple of celery sticks with almond butter and it was the perfect snack.


Dinner was probably the hardest because I made dinner for my boyfriend. We had yummy, healthy chicken sitting in the crock pot all day. This is normally a go to meal for me because it’s so easy. I usually make him a starch and then add a veggie. Since roasted asparagus was in the recipe book I made that for his and my veggie tonight. They were sooooo good!!! 


I had to pass up the chicken and the mashed potatoes and I knew it was going to be hard, so I did the 21 day extreme upper fix workout. This made having another vanilla fresh shake soooo much easier. As an fyi, I really love the extreme workouts so far. I feel like I needed to change up my routine and my muscles are thanking me because I’m working them in a different way. That’s another reason I love beachbody. There are so many different programs to choose from so nothing ever gets old…except for maybe this vanilla fresh. I kid, I kid!!! hahaha

On to day 2!

 

 

 

Fresh Friday – Studio Pennylane

Studio Pennylane paired with the penny to inspire mindful change in every day life. Practicing gratitude and having daily affirmations bring light and happiness into our worlds. It’s research based! During our last Fresh Friday we talked about goal setting. This should be incorporated into your goals, because the more often we remind ourselves of what our goals are and what it takes to achieve them, the more active we will be in making them come true.

Laws of attraction. Practicing the secret. I know you’ve heard all of this!

Every item within the Studio Pennylane brand is meant to remind you of this. Remember that every day is a gift and it was given to you because you’re as important as the land, the sky, and the sea. Don’t take it for granted. Take a few minutes every day to close your eyes and clear your mind. When you open your eyes, tell the truth about what you’re grateful for. There is a person in another room opening their eyes and saying your name.

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